Why the pretences? Life is all about being YOU!

Looking into the mirror, who do you see?

Life is all about being you, discovering, exploring, learning and experiencing an adventure, a real rollercoster ride,  if we must be honest. There are extreme highs when we feel we can take on the world, get the dream job, achieve anything and not worry about what others think about us, we embrace our individualism. However there are the extreme lows aswell, when things do not go according to plan, we dont achieve our objectives, you feel as if the dark cloud above your head is forever looming and you need to remind yourself that you will refind that happy feeling which puts a smile on your face and adds that spring to your step.

The big question is why do we need the pretences? Does it make you feel happier? If so, is this happiness long lasting, I sincerely doubt it. The happiness that comes with a pretence which is in reality a lie, is short lived. After the short lived sense of power of the pretence and the feelings that come along with it, you go back to the original feeling which may be one of inadequacy. One should ask yourself is not better to deal with that feeling, by dealing with it you may after a period of time, slowly but surely chip away that feeling until it is minute and rarely impacts your life to such an extent that you feel you constantly need to pretend.

The truth is by lying to yourself and others this act will only catch up with you in the long run, why would you want to live a life of constant lying or pretence and having to always worry or wander if people will find out the truth. Or better yet, you yourself finally realise that the past few years have been dominated by pretences, these years you cannot take back so you begin to question whether or not you have truly lived your own life or has it been the life of someone else.

Its time to deal with reality, yes reality and the truth that comes with it can be hard at times. Looking into that mirror in the change room of Vertigo, you realise that you have put on weight, you are no longer a size 8 but instead a size 10. The big question is do you suck in the new weight, buy the size 8 jeans which you will not wear comfortably, thats if you wear them or will you buy the size 10 jeans, wear them comfortably with confidence and know that everyone does put on a bit of weight with age and embrace it. Why lie to yourself about your weight, realise that putting on weight is all part of life and embrace the slightly more cushionny you. 

You stare intensly at the packet of Dunhill Menthol on the table in front you, you have told everyone that you have officially quit smoking, but have you? The temptation to light one up, is taking over your body & your mind....you do it but this becomes a daily habit yet you've stopped smoking according to eveyone around you. No matter how big the lie or pretence really is, why do it, what do you have to gain from it? One gains nothing in the long run from a lie or pretence so embrace your life, your skin and being you.

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