Which activities make you lose track of time...

The art of being a shopaholic

Time is such a precious commodity in todays society as everyone is constantly trying to fit more activities into one day than one should probably fit into a week. However time is a constant factor in our lives, we need to be on time for meetings, on time for lectures, on time for meeting deadlines, on time for your dental appointment, on time for your flights (I'm always on time if I'm going on holiday), basically our lives for the most part are ruled by time. Thus I embrace the times when I'm not rushing around checking my watch every five minutes making sure I'm on time, I thrive on not having to wear a watch on the weekends or on holiday as I know I don't have to keep track of time. Being able to have time to just be, to relax and do what you want to do and not within a specific time frame is essential for one's soul to be happy. 

There are a number of activities which make me lose track of time which I thoroughtly enjoy:

• Shopping- I can shop for hours, browsing in and out of stores, trying on clothes, shoes and accessories. I can enter a shopping center at 10am and leave when it closes and not realise that I have spent an entire day shopping as retail theraphy certainly is therapy for me.
• Spending time with family and friends allows one to forget about the bad week that has past and focus on sharing moments with people who have really positively added to your life.
• Travelling and discovering new places, people and cultures gets me engrossed in the activity as I absolutely love discovering new places, learning about new cultures and just fully embracing a new dynamic.
• Spending time at my favourite NGO's like Sarah Fox, Learn to Earn, Carel du Toit and Star Schools, just gives me such insight into giving back and how one can impact the lives of others in such small ways.
• Social media and spending time on the internet. There is always something new to learn about, there's so much information available that spending time on the net can most certainly make you lose track of time.
• Doing activities that I love like cooking, trying new restaurants, going wine tasting, reading, being adventurous, learning and discovering hidden gems completely make me lose focus on the time.

Time really can dominate our lives, however its up to you to make sure that it does not and that you allow yourself to lose track of time every now and again.

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My favourite Cat in the Hat book is Fox in Socks, because...

Cat in the Hat, a journey of fun and learning

My childhood memories are filled with stories by the infamous Dr. Seuss. This classic collection of childrens books were and still are an absolute hit with the younger one's as the stories are filled with crazy characters, catchy rhymes and colourful drawings which takes you on a creative journey far far away. I have many favourite Cat in the Hat books however Fox in Socks still stands out as the one that I remember most.

Fox in Socks is a tale of the energetic Fox in Socks who teaches a rather confused Mr Knox all about tongue twisters. Poor Mr Knox is very overwhelmed to say the least however after much practice he learns all about the tongue twisters in town. Fox in Socks takes Mr Knox on a complete journey of tongue twisters through the town introducing him to other characters like Sue and Crow as well as teaching him tricks along their journey.

This book is ideal for children who are beginning to read on their own as the rhyme, repitition and rhythm assists the little ones to become more confident in their reading abilities.  Its one of my favourite Cat in the Hat books because I thoroughly enjoyed all the rhymes, it made me start thinking of creating my own rhymes from a very young age. I will definitely keep my collection for my kids one day as I want my children to discover the tales of Dr. Seuss and Socks on Knox and Knox in box. Fox in socks on box on Knox.

Going the distance....

The hug at the airport after months of being apart

Relationships with individuals living in the same city is already challenging as being in a relationship requires much compromise however its so worth it when you begin discovering life's gems together. Relationships are all about learning about new discoveries with that special person, testing the boundaries, sharing experiences, compromising, being willing to try new activities, adapting but most importantly its about trust and being able to just be yourself with your partner.

There are those relationships which work because both individuals have been willing to trust, learn and embrace life together. There are those relationships which after so much effort just don't work, which is normal but the important thing is that you learn from the experience in order for it not to repeat itself again.

Relationships can be challenging without the added 10 000 km between you and your partner which most certainly adds to the challenge. However one realises after experiencing a long distance relationship that if its meant to be and both individuals are willing to put in the double dose of effort, its bound to work out. Long distance relationships are definitely not everyone's cup of tea or flavour of the month, as it takes a unique soul to committ and be willing to go through the ups and downs which come with the time difference, longing and the need for a cuddle. The truth is, as soppy as it sounds, yes I am a hopeless romantic and believe that things do happen for a reason and each princess will find their prince in due course, if you connect with someone on a certain level you will not want to not give the relationship a shot. At least if it does not work out, you know you have tried your best, put in the effort and have given it your all, with no regrets. Yes, there may be the thought of what if, what if we were in the same city, would it have worked out? Lets be honest if either of you are willing to make the move, make the life changes or if your paths cross again in your life time then yes, its meant to be and you should embrace the feelings associated with the experience.

As hard as long distance relationships are, I would give it a try again, wouldn't you? You never know what may come out of the 10 000km distance, it may actually force you reassess your current situation, challenge your daily activities but most importantly it should cause an eruption of happiness, love and learnings.

Below is a snippet from the movie Going the Distance which is all about the challenges that come with trying to make a long distance relationship work.

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Why I have converstaions

Conversations keep us sane

Conversation are an informal exchange of thoughts, ideas, opinions and information between individuals. As human beings we have conversations in order to express our opinions, provide insight and knowledge, ask questions and engage with others. Many people have conversations to stay sane or at least avoid going insane.

I have conversations to share thoughts, ideas and to learn from others. We are all experts in our own right, whether it be in politics, current affairs, gardening, knowing the best place to find a good burger in town or the best travel agent to use when booking a holiday we are all in our own  special ways experts of some sort. Thus I have conversations in order to learn from experts and share my knowledge and experiences. Plus my personality type which is an ESTJ gets energy and inspiration by conversing and engaging with others which I must admit is very true.

One can learn so much by conversing as it allows one to challenge others, debate and form opinions. Imagine a life without the ability of conversing with others, you would have to embrace the imaginary friend which would result in one never getting any feedback. As individuals we thrive on conversations and feedback. Next time you are having a convo, instead of just talking, think about what you are contributing to the conversation and what you are gaining from the convo. I bet you would start looking at things in a different light.

Conversations with ourselves is normal, right?

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Sometimes people need to make their own mistakes

Life is all about making mistakes, not many of us want to admit or find it easy to admit that we’ve made a mistake as who wants to admit when they are wrong. One of the hard tasks of life is watching a friend who you have grown up with, fall head over heels in love with a guy who one feels is not a great fit.

Friendship is more than just playing barbies or sharing a drink, it’s a bond which one establishes over time. It’s a feeling of comfort, happiness and trust which one shares with another individual and overtime the strength becomes like a bond one has with family members.

I have a friend who I have known since I was 3 or 4 years of age and over the years we have become family as we’ve shared heartache, achievements, deaths, love and made many memories together. She has generally only been in long term relationships and never really embraced the freedom of being single. She started dating a guy about 1 year and a half ago. They met in a rather unusal way, he was in a relationship and she had been single for a brief period. Their relationship started on a bad footing in my mind as he cheated on his ex girlfriend with my friend and this is how their relationship began. My theory of once a cheater always a cheater was put to the test.

Over the period that they have been together, I actually became fond of him until he cheated on my special friend who really does not deserve to be treated like that. After the cheating episode my opinion of this individual changed completely. It got to a stage when my dear, innocent friend realised that they needed to take a break in order to give her time to reassess the situation. However the douchbag of a male once again waved his magical wand, threw a slight tantrum which the usual 5 year old does, and he got exactly what he wanted. This break didn’t last long as they are now back together. During the period after the cheating, I was always or at least tried to be the friend I thought I should be which included voicing my opinion of him and his actions. I understand that love is a feeling, connection and an addiction which one at times will do and try everything to hold onto it. However there needs to come a time when you question whether its really love or if its just fear of not wanting to be alone. I guess there are times when all we can do is voice our opinion but the reality is sometimes people just need to learn the hard way and make their own mistakes no matter how much we care about them.

My bucket list- 100 things to do before you die

Everyone should have their own bucket list

Death is never a pleasant topic to discuss as it brings out emotions which for many have been buried under a double layer of extra hardened fat which unless put under extreme heat will melt and be set free. Below is my bucket list, 100 things one should try to do before you die.

1. Overcome the fear & go sky diving
2. Go Paragliding
3. Go for a ride in a hot air balloon
4. Ride an elephant and guide an elephant by his/her trunk through the forest
5. Scream and screech as one goes bungy jumping
6. Learn a new, out of the ordinary foreign language
7. Study aboard
8. Spend an afternoon swimming with dolphins
9. Make a snow angel in minus temperatures
10. Learn how to play a musical instrument – for me that would be the piano, drums or guitar
11. Create your own website
12. Invest in the stock market
13. Experience the innocence, warmth and absolute high of being in love
14. Get married, have your dream wedding and discover a country on your honeymoon
15. Have a child
16. Adopt a child or sponsor a child through their years of education
17. Raise a happy, healthy, sensitive and kind child
18. Witness and be present at significant moments of the upbringing of your children
19. Provide a safe home environment which exudes love, happiness and comfort
20. Have a pet whether it be a mans best friend or gold fish, learn to look after a pet.
21. Stay and experience a new culture by staying with a traditional family
22. See and touch a koala bear
23. Become a vegetarian for 2-4 weeks (Yes, this will be difficult for the extreme meat eaters & remember to take your supplements)
24. Milk a cow
25. Ride a camel
26. Live in a house on a lake
27. Spend time on a farm and participate in the daily farming duties
28. Move into a Tuscan Villa
29. Grow your own herb and vegetable garden
30. Find your passion in collectable items, start collecting and keep these items for your kids. This could be anything from snowglobes to coins to stamps to cd’s.
31. Attend the Olympic games and experience the pure thrill of sport
32. Attend a FIFA World Cup, what an amazing experience. You are bound to become addicted and would do anything to attend as many matches as possible.
33. Try new foods even if yo never thought you would, be adventous. Enjoy escargot in Paris, boerwors in South Africa,
34. Catch your own fish and eat it
35. Spend a week in silent retreat
36. Find inner peace
37. Learn to forgive as life really is too short to hold a grudge
38. Learn to live in the now
39. Take up yoga or mediation
40. Have your palms read
41. Go to a tarot card reader
42. Get hypnotized
43. Attend New York and Milan Fashion Week
44. Get golden circle tickets to your favourite concert
45. Experience the talent of attending a show on broadway
46. Sit in and watch a court case
47. Bet on your favourite horse even if you know nothing about betting
48. Go horse riding on the beach or sand dunes
49. Play a game of golf and drive a golf cart
50. Watch a sporting game live whether it be rugby, soccer or hockey
51. Spend a night sleeping under the stars
52. Start a journal
53. Spend a weekend painting, expressing yourself through art
54. Climb Kilimanjaro
55. Do the Inca Trail in Peru
56. Backpack through South America
57. Step on each continent
58. Smile at a stranger daily
59. Live like a local for a month
60. Learn how to Tango in Argentina
61. Learn how to surf
62. Scuba dive in the Great Barrier Reef
63. Have one of your articles published
64. Volunteer at an NGO that your feel strongly about
65. Go sailing on a yacht
66. Teach English in a foreign country
67. Smoke a cigar in Cuba
68. Do a photography course
69. Have your own photoshoot
70. Spend the day at a spa
71. Enjoy high tea
72. Pop a bottle of champagne way before noon
73. Pick strawberries
74. Make a kite and fly it
75. Shake hands with someone who you admire and who has made a difference in a country
76. Be part of a positive change
77. Save a life
78. Crowd surf
79. Learn how to fly a plane
80. Write a book or start a blog
81. Dance in the rain
82. Learn how to wind surf or wakeboard
83. Spend time on an island
84. Visit Disneyland and allow the inner child to erupt whilst experiencing the thrill of the rides
85. Spend a week with no television, radio, computer or cellphone just enjoying the quietness
86. Name a star
87. Make a list of all the countries that you want to visit and try to see as many as possible
88. Go sandboarding
89. Attend an international conference which interests you
90. Spend an entire weekend reading a book which engrosses you
91. Host a dinner party
92. Plan and go on a roadtrip
93. Plan a surprise party for someone special
94. Experience a white Christmas
95. Learn to follow your heart even if this means making sacrifices which may not work out as planned.
96. Teach someone a new set of skills
97. Thank the people in your life who impact your life so positively
98. Visit the Roman baths in Bath
99. Take a risk or chance in life
100. Enjoy life, make mistakes, make a difference, learn, be happy and love.

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Watching from the side lines

Watching from the side line vs being part of the action

I started playing action soccer a month ago and have been enjoying it thoroughly. Who would have thought that running around non stop for 20 minutes aside, kicking a ball, defending your territory, trying to scole a goal whilst attempting to not faint from exhaustion would be so much fun. Action soccer is a sure way to get the pulse beating, blood flowing rapidly whilst getting the body into shape for summer.

I couldn't play in our teams match last week but watched as my team played a rather tough match, which we should have won but did not. Watching from the side line was a totally different experience, the game seemed to be in slow motion. Standing on the side line seemed as though I was pressing the pause button every now and again as all passes seem to be much slower. I shouted from the side, hoping my team could hear me cheer as well as direct the passes informing them who was open or not. I realised that playing the game, being in the crux of the action versus watching on the side line are two totally different perspectives. When you're in the middle of the action, you dont really hear the screams and shouts instead you try to strategise and plan your next pass. 

In life there are times when we watch from the side lines as there are times when things seem to happen in slow mo and we wish we could have changed the outcome. I guess the best that we can do instead of screaming from the side lines, one should rather put yourself in the heat of the moment & question what your decision would be. Would you prefer to watch from the side line or be in the heat of the action and make that pass?

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